For my original blog launch back in 2016, I remember writing a draft for a post about Fashion Must Haves. One of the first things that I was going to talk about was undergarments, including shapewear. I cringe a little when I think about that today. Is there anything wrong with shapewear? No. Do I still wear shapewear? Yes. The reason I find it cringe-worthy is because I realize the subconscious note of body-shaming that underlies the belief that shape-wear is a fashion necessity. Even your favorite bloggers can be wrong about things so forgive me. Though undergarments made to hide flaws have their place, being positive about our bodies means never perpetuating the idea, however subtly, that one “MUST HAVE” an item that conceals the truth to be fashionable.
In order to truly accept our bodies, we must first accept that the “perfect body” is a farce created by a society that favors fantasy above truth. The truth is that we have bellies and cellulite, acne scars and discoloration, sagging and lumping and everything in between. The truth is jarring, it comes with a story behind every scratch, bruise, lump… So we smooth every roll and cover every spot until we believe the silent (or not so silent) voices that were birthed by “society” and now live in our own heads. They tell us that those “flaws” must be put away or else. Forgetting that a healthy relationship with our body means that we love the reality of them just as much as we do the illusion created by the makeup, the shapewear, the weave.
I would be remiss if I did not acknowledge how difficult a task it is to love yourself despite the insecurity, self-deprecation, and doubt that we as humans experience on any given day. These struggles will take tons of work to overcome. But the solution won’t ever be tucked into a pair of Spanx or cinched into a waist trainer. The only fashion must-have is confidence. Let that belly hang, let those dimples pop out of the shortest dress in your closet and let your booty jiggle in those tight pants. Let the voices say what they say and push on through despite them. I guess what I’m trying to say is, wear whatever the hell you want however the hell you want to wear it. If you love it, so do I.