Welcome to Trev, the Blogger! This is my first official blog post for a dream many years in the making. I still can’t believe that it’s finally here.
That said, let’s jump right in and answer the question, Plus-Size: Fashion: “Where do I begin?”
The first and most important factor in cultivating a sense of style is definitely self -confidence. As a plus-sized woman, it can be difficult to own your fierceness in a world that tends to bombard you with images and propaganda that disregards thick, curvy and voluptuous bodies. Personally, that was the most difficult thing in my journey to developing a sense of fashion. I have always been a curvy child, teen and now a woman and for many years, I thought of it as a tragedy. I was not thin, therefore, not beautiful, attractive, worthy. This destructive way of thinking led to many unhealthy patterns in the way I interacted with the world and in relationships with those closest to me.
To become the woman I am today, I had to get over the delusion that what the media and other outside stimuli pushed in order to sell their magazines was in fact, gospel. The term “self-confidence” begins with the word “self” for a very important reason. It cannot be handed to you by others, it must be birthed and nurtured within you.
How can you build self-confidence despite the odds?
- Build a fortress of support: Surround yourself with people who know, love and support you unconditionally.
- Engage with others: Search for online communities, blogs, and forums that give you the ability to interact with other confident, plus-sized women who love the skin they are in.
- Get rid of limiting thought patterns: Learn to recognize, revise and revile limiting and negative thoughts that tell you what you “can’t” do or wear. YES, YOU ABSOLUTELY CAN! Deep down, you know that you are capable of doing everything right now that you could do at any other size.
- Positive reinforcement: Look at yourself in the mirror at least once a day and remind yourself that you are beautiful; as is. No conditions need to apply.
Is it ever really that simple? Not necessarily, but I can guarantee you that following through with these first few suggestions is a step in the right direction. Though I can say that I have come a long way, my journey continues. Join me and let’s show the world that self-acceptance is the new little black dress; a staple in every woman’s wardrobe. See you next time!
- Bralette by Forever 21 Plus (Swimwear)
- Skirt by Ashley Stewart
- Shoes by Dorothy Perkins